Wednesday, June 02, 2010


is blogging instead of doing other stuff procrastinating?

I have 30 skeins of yarn soaking in vinegar water, and they are due for a sock club this Saturday. It is now Wednesday, and no I didn't space out on the yarn, I was finally able to get it from the supplier and it arrived this afternoon. (It's not worth going into all the why's and wherefore's of not getting it in sooner - suffice it to say that being in the yarn business is sometimes a goat rodeo.) Right now I should be in the kitchen getting it all dyed up - fortunately it's a semisolid, so it should go fairly quickly - but before I can do it, I have to go out for more plastic wrap because I don't think I have enough to do the whole job. So why am I not out at the supermarket then?

My younger brother, my one and only sibling, told me today that he and his wife are divorcing after 21 years of marriage. Up until Sunday, I had no idea there was anything wrong. Our parents and I never saw this coming, so I'm numb with shock. They had no children, but it's still very sad - especially since he has been heartsick for the past two years, yet he told no one. I don't feel comfortable sharing more details right now, all I can say is that they always seemed perfect for each other and very happy. They have a beautiful house and put a lot of work into restoring and decorating it. Now neither one will be able to afford to keep it. His future is now uncertain. Bro is doing his best to be stoic about it, but he can't hide the cynicism, bitterness, humiliation and most of all sadness, because he was willing to work things out if that was what she wanted - however, it was her decision to leave the marriage. So for me, in addition to whatever I may be doing with yarn, my first priority is now my family of origin. I want to help look after my brother in any way I can, and also help my elderly folks deal with this loss. They love their daughter-in-law dearly, and my mother is grieving.

I have a couple FO's that I wanted to show off, but given the circumstances, that will have to wait. Just telling someone what's going on helps, and now I think I can get off the computer and go do the things that need to get done. Thank you dear blog friends - blessings to you all. One thing I learned from this experience is that you should tell someone if you are in pain, don't keep it to yourself. You are loved far more than you realize.

That's really sad about your brother. So sorry for your family's pain. :-(
Just last night my husband said "Pain shared is pain halved- Joy shared is joy doubled." and so it is.
Oh, I'm so sorry! I hope your SIL stays in touch with the family, and doesn't burn the bridges behind her. It's tough enough for the family to go through a divorce without losing the extended relationships along the way.
I'm so sorry to hear of this! It's sad your brother has been going through this on his own for sure. It's always a shock especially if the couple seems happy. (((hugs)))

Hope you get your yarn done with no hiccups! Keep your chin up!
thank you all for the kind thoughts! I know this will be ok eventually - it is a shock and we all have to adjust. oh, and I did manage to get all the yarn dyed :)
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