Chickenlips Knitting

Congratulations to Fancy Pants at The Write to Knit for being the first to answer my shamelessly self-indulgent question about my colorway names being Rush song titles. I knew my friend Kiki at By Hook or By Crook would know the answer--but don't worry Kiki, there will be more contests, your turn is comin' girl! I thank everyone for playing, and for continuing to read me even though I tend to go on ad nauseam about the Rodney Dangerfield of rock bands--for 30+ years, my Canadian power trio heroes have been brilliant musical innovators, yet never seem to get the respect they deserve. Year after year, they are snubbed by the Rock & Roll Hall of Fame (a pretentious club for pretentious a-holes, IMHO) and are bashed by so-called "music critics" who don't know a Paul Reed Smith from PMS. Please forgive my mini-rant--I more than love this band. Their music is the foundation of my relationship with Jason, as he played their albums constantly when we were first going out until the music grew on me, and the soundtrack of the part of my life that's most important to me.


The Love Meme


Flutter posted this meme on her blog a few days ago, and I thought it was wonderful. Tag, you're it!


1. Who is your man? Jason


2. How long have you been together? 21 years, married for 18 (August 26, 1989)




3. How long did you date? Before what, we moved in together and commenced the living in sin? (sorry Flutter, I loved that answer) We went together for a little more than a year, then shacked up, as we were sick of maintaining two households!


4. How old is your man? Just celebrated his 48th birthday.

5. Who eats more? These days, I do! Since his minor yet significant heart scare this summer, he's been zealous about a healthy diet, but me...not so much. His discipline is really a pain in the ass sometimes.


6. Who said "I love you" first? Oh, I did. I was 30 and single, come on!


7. Who is taller? Him. I'm 5'5", he's 5'10" and our daughter is taller than both of us.


8. Who sings better? He is an astounding tenor and guitarist. I sing like a hinge. He serenaded me on our third date, I couldn't believe this rich voice and beautiful music was coming from this cute little guy with a slightly high-pitched speaking voice! Incidentally, that's when I knew we were going to get married. ;)


9. Who is smarter? Having carefully considered this, I'd have to say that I am. Not that he isn't intelligent--he is very bright. But even he reminds me, when I am in doubt about my ability to learn something, that I learned Japanese.


10. Whose temper is worse? His used to be, but these days, I'd have to say mine is worse. Damn menopause!



11. Who does the laundry? Laundry in this house is solely my domain. I may let the rest of the housework go to hell, but I am extremely picky about laundry since he felted my first pair of handknit socks.


12. Who takes out the garbage? He does, when he's home. He's a traveling salesman, so I do it when he's out of town, although Michelle takes over on garbage night.



13. Who sleeps on the right side of the bed? That would be me (from the laying on the bed perspective).


14. Who pays the bills? He pays the mortgage, electric, water, car payment, and everything else that we would starve, die and be out on the street if it didn't get paid. I pay my student loan and credit cards.


15. Who is better with the computer? I'd have to say I am, not to toot my own horn, but I've had the opportunity through various types of jobs to learn more about programs than he has. However, he's been a software salesman for the past twenty years, and I could never do the demos and training that he effortlessly does!


16. Who mows the lawn? He does, he even makes pretty diagonal tracks with the mower.


17. Who cooks dinner? We eat out a lot more than we used to. I used to do the bulk of the cooking, but now he does. He's a very good cook.


18. Who drives when you are together? he does, and I'm happy to let him!


19. Who pays when you go out? See #18.


20. Who is most stubborn? Boy, that's hard to say. We are both pretty pigheaded sometimes--I'd call it a draw!


21. Who is the first to admit that they are wrong? Him, because when we argue (which is seldom,) I give him the silent treatment and he hates it.


22. Whose parents do you see the most? His, even though they live about a 7-hour drive away, and mine are about 45 minutes from us. My parents smoke, and I couldn't quit smoking until I had acupuncture two years ago. Now the smell of cigarette smoke turns my stomach, and even though I love my parents, I just can't go to their house.


23. Who kissed who first? Oh God, I can't remember! But I think it was a mutually agreed-upon kiss.


24. Who asked who out? We met in a weird way. It was through Great Expectations, that video dating thing! I requested to meet him, so maybe it was me, but he was the one who called me and set up our first date, so was it him then? For us, there isn't a simple answer to that question.


25. Who proposed? Here was his marriage proposal: "Well, I guess we should think about getting engaged." This after I dropped huge hints for several months. How romantical. ;)


26. Who is more sensitive? I am, no question. And it's a good thing, because on the rare occasions that I have seen him cry, I would rather have a root canal with no anesthetic, it hurts so much.


27. Who has more friends? I think I do--he has always been somewhat of a loner. Not antisocial, it just takes him longer to make friends. But when he does, he tends to keep them for life.


28. Who has more siblings? I have one brother. He had three, but two are deceased.


29. Who wears the pants in the family? That's hard to say. I have a tremendous amount of freedom and autonomy for a married woman, but in certain ways, he makes the rules by which we live, and I honor them because he is our main breadwinner and provider (and because I know he wants the best for us).







Jason, you are the perfect partner for me. You give me roots and wings, and have made possible everything I value in my life today. I am proud to be your wife and the mother of your child. I love you!